Pragmatism

So in light of recent conversations with friends regarding their romantic relationships, I felt it necessary to raise the issue of pragmatism and its seeming hurdle in kindling my three friends relationships. I will keep these brief for fear these stories can be identified when they should probably be confidential despite only using them for discussion.

The first story involves the fundamental question: would you allow yourself to slowly become attached to a person who is inevitably leaving with no possible hope for future relationships? Is the impending pain and suffering worth those few moments of ecstasy?

The second story revolves around the pragmatism of a relationship both in distance and external forces of family and beliefs stopping a likely future: but is the joy enough to overcome all these issues? Can emotion overcome the "rational" mind we have been burdened/blessed with as humans?

The third story involves an internal struggle between an old and new self: is the love-interest a catalyst for inevitable self-change, or the sole instigator of change? Should one change to satisfy the requirements of another, even if that change is desired in oneself; or should there be mutual acceptance of all parts of an imperfect human?

The truth is there is no overarching answer to all these scenarios, but rather for me personally, important lessons. I feel envy for the passion each of these friends is feeling. To feel passion even if created by immense sadness, anger or grief from the internal conflict of pragmatism versus love, is an emotion to be relished rather than rejected. It only further proves to me as one friend put it "love is stupid" both in his cynicism of the emotion he is so clearly in and the reality that love, one of the most powerful feelings in mankind, is also utterly irrational.

Deciding to keep my new blog posts short and sweet for an reinitiated attempt to achieve 200 blog posts by graduation so bye.